Tera-pies

Over the years, I've realized that I've had a pretty bi-polar relationship with girls that I've considered as "super close"(it doesn't matter if it's 2-way or just me deciding that for myself, still applies irregardless); I'm either the dude who will always have their back, OR, on the flipside, the most overbearing and needy.

Needy how? Simple; you need them to need you. And I don't mean that in a romantic sense. I guess it's kinda like a dad's/brother's relationship to his adolescent daughters/sisters. You're used to being a "pillar" of sorts; a source of comfort/advice/inspiration/motivation/companionship for them, but now that they've grown up and started exploring brave new worlds on their own, you have all this "extra time" and space that they've left behind. Some guys(like yours truly, at one point) simply dont know how to handle that. Thus, you start smothering them.

Sometimes we can unnecessarily take it a little too personal too, especially when what they rightly need is some much deserved space. The thing to remember though, is it's not that they stopped caring about you anymore or any less. It's simply a time for them to give all their focus in making a name for themselves in this world with their own strength.

Sure it's a sick, sad, little world out there. Who wouldn't go into bouts of worrying and overanalyzing worst case scenarios? But all you can and should do at this stage, is lepas tangan je, because there are many things in life that are simply out of your control. The sooner you accept that inevitable fact, the sooner you'll be at peace with not only yourself, but at your charges setting out into the horizon, slowly but surely climbing their way to the top. And hey, just because they stopped relying on you, it doesn't mean that you should stop caring for them any less.