Archive for March 2015

UNPACKING: MELAYU

Here's a new segment, if you will. As always, it's a form of therapy for me. You know, the whole "reflecting on thyself" and all that jazz. I'm not here to open debates and start arguments. That's not why I'm here. There are other writers out there who'd be more than happy to accommodate you. These are just MY thoughts on the matter, and thus, shouldn't be taken as gospel/scientific fact/academic reference/argument fodder. I just don't like confrontation, that's all.

1. I'm proud AND guilt-ridden of who I am at the same time
See next point.

2. Uh...yea...The NEP thing
I acknowledge and am very much aware that I'm a product of the NEP...all...the...frickin...time. All of my future achievements in my adult life(heck, even my current and past ones) will undoubtedly come with a catch; "Where would you be without it?", either shot by peers who'd question the validity of my hard-earned success(because I have a "leg up", as they would put it), or my parents/Malay-sympathizers who'd lecture me if I ever bring up the idea of racial equality, and the much-overdue needs-based over race-based policy(this, seems like a frecken no brainer to me, especially to deal with corruption and misappropriation of funds). I am the walking, talking, breathing equivalent of "having your cake and eating it". It's like being the only middle-class white boy in a hip-hop crew from Compton.

3. ...more on the NEP thing
This whole "Malay first" ideology is actually a bad thing, for ALL involved, because the Malays are raised knowing that there'll always be some kind of a safety net for them. Maybe it's just me, but if we're talking about reasons to be proud of one's culture, wouldn't it be better if we were known for being resourceful, adaptable and having a natural competitive edge? The simple fact is, the "Malay first" ideology, with regards to the bigger picture, is actually dulling these qualities rather than honing them.

4. Ultra-melayus and Islamic-radicalism
I am a Muslim, and a Malay, and I am as shitless-scared as the rest of you are of this bunch and what they are capable of. For one thing, it's because I KNOW I'm not a saint, and I'm not living in denial, trying to Arab-icize(is that even a word?) myself. Also, because I love hanging with my "braders" and "machas" as much as I love hanging out with my "members". Life would suck if it was a "Malaysia for Melayus only". You know what? Any form of legislation that's Saudi-based would SERIOUSLY SUCK as well, because most of my friends are women!

5. It's all geography man
When you say "Malay" to me, I think of the whole shabang; as long as you have an ancestral link from anywhere within the SEA region, to me, you're some form of "Malay". It was called the "Malay Archipelago" by the mat sallehs after all(Malaysian/Singaporean/Indonesian/Phillipino are simply politically-bound labels to me). I'd like to go further and suggest that we might even be closely related to the Latinos(same biological features...heck, same frecken stereotypes too).

NOODLES: PET PEEVES - THE AUSTRALIAN VERSION

After 3 years of to and fro, this place ain't so bad...

...With the exception of two, very simple things.

1. "Ta".
Yup. Exactly how it's spelled. Supposedly it's thank you, in short form(at least that's what I've been told). Except, I find it really, really, really, really...(this will go on for quite awhile)...annoying. It just sounds soooo frickin gedik(also somewhat posh-but-not-in-a-good-way/pretentious as well) no matter who says it. Seriously. I dunno why I hate it so much, but everytime a customer says "Ta" to me, I'm quietly grinding my teeth behind a forced smile. Rasa cam nak "ta"-mpar je sial.

2. Asians speaking broken english, with a thick made-up Aussie accent
Wehhh, aku takleh doh. Can you please just speak with your original accent that you were raised with? It's more natural, and actually more pleasing to the ear. Sebab diorang ni tak pandai nak pronounce or enunciate betul-betul, tapi nak jugak tambah accent ciplak dia kat situ...

*le sigh

NOODLES: DARNDEST THINGS

First, I refer you to this article here, posted by a friend of mine on facebook;

Due to my lack of a lovelife, as well as some personal trust issues, there are many moments where I came to the conclusion that such an idea seemed the most ideal or probable.

Basically, I'm openly selfish. And I don't see that as a bad thing; would you rather be outright stubborn and uncompromising about everything you want to accomplish in life...AND still be a great aunt/uncle to your siblings or friends' children...

OR

Would you be the passive-aggressive parent, channeling your own unfulfilment and frustrations through your children, leaving THEM broken, torn and scarred(think child-beauty pageants and the like, or forcing them to do things they have zero interest in, but then masquerading it as "the smart thing to do").

Of course, it goes without saying, it's not all black and white like that. I know tons of great parents(mine included, obviously), who did, or are doing well with children.

But for me, personally, with my unhealthy combination of low self esteem, on-again-off-again neurosis, short temper and attention span, as well as constant indecisiveness...let's just say these are NOT the best traits for a father to have.

And I haven't even got started on the socio-environmental aspect of starting a family; managing your finance and setting up a "flexible moral compass" for your kids(basically, making sure your kid gets enough exposure to the many facets of the world, so they won't get any culture shock at any point in their life, while at the same time, making sure they don't end up stuck with the wrong crowd).

Too much? Hey, if you're dead set on having children, I'm just saying, I've barely scratched the surface pal. I'm not throwing people off the idea. I'm just pointing out that you REALLY need to be aware of how much each of your actions can affect your kid.

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