NOODLES: DARNDEST THINGS

First, I refer you to this article here, posted by a friend of mine on facebook;

Due to my lack of a lovelife, as well as some personal trust issues, there are many moments where I came to the conclusion that such an idea seemed the most ideal or probable.

Basically, I'm openly selfish. And I don't see that as a bad thing; would you rather be outright stubborn and uncompromising about everything you want to accomplish in life...AND still be a great aunt/uncle to your siblings or friends' children...

OR

Would you be the passive-aggressive parent, channeling your own unfulfilment and frustrations through your children, leaving THEM broken, torn and scarred(think child-beauty pageants and the like, or forcing them to do things they have zero interest in, but then masquerading it as "the smart thing to do").

Of course, it goes without saying, it's not all black and white like that. I know tons of great parents(mine included, obviously), who did, or are doing well with children.

But for me, personally, with my unhealthy combination of low self esteem, on-again-off-again neurosis, short temper and attention span, as well as constant indecisiveness...let's just say these are NOT the best traits for a father to have.

And I haven't even got started on the socio-environmental aspect of starting a family; managing your finance and setting up a "flexible moral compass" for your kids(basically, making sure your kid gets enough exposure to the many facets of the world, so they won't get any culture shock at any point in their life, while at the same time, making sure they don't end up stuck with the wrong crowd).

Too much? Hey, if you're dead set on having children, I'm just saying, I've barely scratched the surface pal. I'm not throwing people off the idea. I'm just pointing out that you REALLY need to be aware of how much each of your actions can affect your kid.